These are some books people I have worked with in the past have reported as helpful. They may or may not be a fit for you. They are not meant to be a substitute for counseling but an additional resource for information and understanding of self and relationships.
SELF VALUE – SELF ESTEEM
I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power
By Brene’ Brown, PhD
The Gifts of Imperfection
By Brene’ Brown, PhD
One Thousand Gifts
By Ann Voskamp
RELATIONSHIPS
Boundaries
By Henry Cloud and JohnTownsend
Love is a Choice
By Dr. Robert Hemfelt, Dr. Frank Minirth, Paul Meier, M.D.
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship
By Leslie Vernick
Forgiving the Devil
By Terry D. Hargrave
5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
By Gary D. Chapman
MARRIAGE
His Needs Her Needs
By Willard Harley
The Whole Hearted Marriage
By Dr. Greg Smalley and Dr. Shawn Stoever
PARENTING
Parenting With Love and Logic
By Foster Cline and Jim Fay